There are various awakenings that people have—in life and in business—that once they have them, they never go back to the old way of doing things. And when that happens, they are never the same. In short, they got it.

I am not sure if I am the only one who has wondered what are the key awakenings that successful people go through that forever change how they do things, which propel them to succeed in business, relationships, and life? I began to study these awakenings, researching them over the years.”

Although life and business have many lessons to teach us, below I share some valuable insights.

Successful people never again…

  1. Return to what hasn’t worked.

Whether a job, or a broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we should never go back to the same thing, expecting different results, without something being different.

  1. Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not.

In everything we do, we must ask ourselves, why am I doing this? Am I suited for it? Does it fit me? Is it sustainable? If the answer is no to any of these questions, you better have a very good reason to proceed.

  1. Try to change another person.

When you realize that you cannot force someone into doing something, you give him or her freedom and allow them to experience the consequences. In doing so, you find your own freedom as well.

  1. Believe they can please everyone.

Once you get that it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live purposefully, trying to please the right people.

  1. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit.

Once successful people know they want something that requires a painful, time-limited step, they do not mind the painful step because it gets them to a long-term benefit. Living out this principle is one of the most fundamental differences between successful and unsuccessful people, both personally and professionally.

  1. Trust someone or something that appears flawless.

It’s natural for us to be drawn to things and people that appear “incredible.” We love excellence and should always be looking for it. We should pursue people who are great at what they do, employees who are high performers, dates who are exceptional people, friends who have stellar character and companies that excel. But when someone or something looks too good to be true, he, she or it is. The world is imperfect. Period. No one and no thing is without flaw, and if they appear that way, hit pause.

  1. Take their eyes off the big picture.

We function better emotionally and perform better in our lives when we can see the big picture. For successful people, no one event is ever the whole story. Winners remember that—each and every day.

  1. Neglect to do due diligence.

No matter how good something looks on the outside, it is only by taking a deeper, diligent and honest look that we will find out what we truly need to know: the reality that we owe ourselves.

  1. Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves.

One of the biggest differences between successful people and others is that in love and in life, in relationships and in business, successful people always ask themselves, What part am I playing in this situation? Said another way, they do not see themselves as victims, even when they are.

  1. Forget that their inner life determines their outer success.

The good life sometimes has little to do with outside circumstances. We are happy and fulfilled mostly by who we are on the inside. Research validates that. And our internal lives largely contribute to producing many of our external circumstances.

And, the converse is true: People who are still trying to find success in various areas of life can almost always point to one or more of these patterns as a reason they are repeating the same mistakes.

Everyone makes mistakes… even the most successful people out there. But, what achievers do better than others is recognize the patterns that are causing those mistakes and never repeat them again. In short, they learn from pain—their own and the pain of others.

A good thing to remember is this: Pain is unavoidable, but repeating the same pain twice, when we could choose to learn and do something different, is certainly avoidable. I like to say, “We don’t need new ways to fail… the old ones are working just fine!” Our task, in business and in life, is to observe what they are, and never go back to doing them again!

Developing a Mindset for Success

What is the major difference between successful people and the rest?

If I make a list things like positivity, work ethic, dedication, perseverance, vision, goals and so forth comes up. We can all agree that this can be grouped into mindset. That is probably the biggest differentiator for people who are successful. They have a mindset for success

A mindset for success helps them overcome adversity , do the uncomfortable tasks and make the necessary sacrifices to become successful. The rest of the populations mindset gives up when the going gets tough. Developing a winning mindset will be easier said than done. Here are a few steps to get you started


The first step towards developing a success mindset is to form daily success habits.

Firstly plan your day. Plan exactly how your day will go the day before. Before the next day even starts, take a pen and a piece of paper and write out the five tasks you need to accomplish the next day that will allow you to move further ahead. These task should be the tasks that will give you the best chance of reaching your bigger goals

Once the day starts and before you start on your task list, you will want to start with your morning routine. A morning routine will allow you to start your day with clarity. It is ideal you begin your morning routine before the sun is up. Examples of this is meditation, daily affirmations, motivational videos or even list out what you are most grateful for.

When you develop a routine, you’re setting yourself up to be successful during the day. Starting your day of on a positive note will condition your mind and body to be in a positive state maximizing your energy and eagerness to get things done.

Doing the Uncomfortable

If developing a success mindset was easy, everyone would do it. A success mindset comes from doing what you feel is uncomfortable. Only you know what situations are uncomfortable. What’s uncomfortable for you might be comfortable for someone else.

Some of these might include getting up early, doing some sort of daily exercise, meditate daily, work long hours and doing tasks at the office that you don’t like.

When you force yourself to do what you don’t want to do, you will develop a resiliency. What used to scare you will not scare you anymore. The challenges you faced before will be minor bumps in the road.

At least once per day, you should be put yourself in an uncomfortable situation. Call the client you’ve been putting off or start on that book you said you could never write. The only way your mindset will get stronger is through that which scares you. The things that we are afraid of will show us what we are made of.

Self Talk

The last topic is how we condition our mind by the words we use. Two things to remember:

  • Take care of your thought when you are by yourself
  • Take care of your words when you are with others

How do you talk to yourself before you have to do something uncomfortable or something you’re afraid of? Do you say I can’t do this so I’m not even going to try or do you say I’m excited for this new challenge. How you talk to yourself programs your mind to either put the maximum effort in to this or give up before it even started. The same applies to how you talk about yourself when with other people. Do you say what you think they want to hear or what you truly believe about yourself. This influences our behaviour when we are around certain people. I’m sure you have heard the saying “you are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with”

Consider this: “I am not who I think I am, I am not who you think I am, I am who I think you think I am”. Considering that we change our behaviour and our words to suite what we think other people want to hear but so doing influencing our subconscious to believe the words that are speaking and that turns into our actions. At the end our thoughts and words are the biggest factor influencing our actions. If you want the actions of someone who is successful start with positive words and thoughts

It will take time

You don’t develop a winning mindset in one day, week, month, or year. If you’re living your life correctly, you will always force yourself to face new challenges. If you want to fully live your life, you need to be growing. Your mindset will give you an advantage over the rest of the population. There aren’t a lot of things you can control in this life, but your mindset is one of them. Focus on building a rock-solid mindset and anything in this world can be yours!


Why your business should be online!

How marketing has changed and how you should adapt.

by Eugene van der Merwe on 25 October 2016

How has marketing in South Africa changed over the last decade and how should you adapt? Most of the principles discussed in this article would be old news for some of you but in general I still see 100’s of businesses operating on marketing principles that should be in the archives. Many of these old marketing practises like newspaper adverts, flyers and bill boards, although not as effective, still work and that is why some businesses still use them. The problem is that they are a ticking time bomb that will eventually stop producing any results and if you’re business isn’t setup yet to pivot, you will be in n river trying to go upstream without a paddle.


It’s to difficult to change?

Once someone gets use to doing something a certain way and as long as it still produce some result, they likely won’t change. Humans fear change and fear what they don’t know or don’t understand especially when it comes to technology. I bought an older friend an iPad, setup google apps and tried to show her how to use it. I tried to explain that everything will be backed up but was met by continuous rejections saying she will rather keep doing things the way she’s used to instead of learning something new, and she is not alone. I will eventually get her to come around…..

I understand that it is difficult to change and learn new things, (most people don’t even do it in their careers with the motivation of an immediate salary increase) but the flipside is you don’t and never become more than what you are today. History has proven that if your business doesn’t improve and keep up to date with changes in the market and the needs of the consumer the most likely outcome for your business is death and the same applies to your marketing approach.

Where do I start?

Technology! Every couple of decades something new is brought into the market that completely changes our thought process. It changes the consumer’s expectations and how they react to their environment. If you look at the 1990’s when e-commerce first came into the market the public was sceptical about its success especially of businesses like Amazon that sold books online. The general public was so used to buy physical items in a store especially books, that few people expected companies like Amazon to survive, let alone thrive. Today there is only a handful of items that can’t be purchased online and soon it will be the preferred place to purchase almost everything so what are you doing to get online?

The cause of procrastination has a lot to do with not knowing where to start so I would like to show you how easy it is. Obviously the first place to start would be your website and secondly to generate traffic to your website. Having a website is a start but means nothing if no one knows about it. Please keep the following in mind when designing your website:

  • A website should be easy to use. The more complicated you make it the more likely it is that a potential customer will go on to a competitors website.
  • Within 10 seconds the potential customer should be able to find any information the need on your website to make a purchase
  • Your website must have a call to action. What do you want the potential customer to do once they land on your website. If your website doesn’t motivate someone to contact you or purchase from you then it isn’t serving any purpose.
  • Don’t design something that you like, design something functional that your potential customer would like.

With that in mind a website with the above functionality you can expect to pay R3500 – R7500 once of and a hosting fee of around R120pm. E-commerce websites are a bit more expensive with a good e-commerce site setting you back around R10 000 – R15 000.

I have my website, now what?

Cool, the first step is done, now you need to generate traffic. There are numerous ways to generate traffic to your website but the most common ways is using online platforms. There are many platforms that you can use and all of them have pro’s and cons but the most popular are platforms such as Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, Snapchat, Google+, Google SEO and PPC. To get the best results on these platforms you have to make use of the paid options. The best free way to generate traffic is by optimizing your website so that Google ranks it organically. Some steps that you can take move your website up the Google rankings are as follow (These change continuously so stay up to date)

  • Blog! At least once a month but preferably once a week.
  • Continuously update your website with new content, info and news
  • Ask your web developer to install SEO plugins on your website
  • Use the Google platforms such as Youtube and Google+
  • Register your business on Google My Business so people can find you on Google maps
  • Make sure your social platforms are connected and working on your website.

There are a few more things that you can do but for now this will be good. I will write another article in a few months to describe the next steps once you have completed these.

I hope you found this useful and if you have any additional queries please contact me on

I also host free workshops to help you understand these concepts better and how to do the above tasks yourself. Please email me if you are interested in attending one of these free workshops.